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Thursday, March 11, 2010
mo' money, mo' problems @ 11:37 AM
How important is money to your dating life?
I'm fairly young and mostly idealistic, so right now money isn't a deal breaker for me. That is, I don't really care if the guy I'm dating is loaded or poor. Yes, it's nice to be treated out to a fancy restaurant, but sometimes lack of money could make for more creative (and more memorable) dates.
I wonder if other females my age feel the same way.
What brought this on?
Well, last Saturday my friends and I were at a bar in Williamsburg (Enid's, for you curious folks), and I was sitting a table with my male friend R. At the table behind us, I noticed a pretty and lonely looking blonde. Now, I'm a matchmaker and the conversation at our table had stalled, so I nudged R and told him to go talk to the girl. She looked friendly, she was hot and there were no guys around her.
R turned around, looked her up and down, and said, ". . .nah".
I turned and looked again, thinking maybe I misjudged and there was a creature from the lagoon sitting behind us. But nope, still a hot and friendly looking blonde. So I had to ask, "Why not?".
R gave me a look and said, "I don't have money to buy her a drink".
Huh.
See, to me, buying a drink isn't a prerequisite to a good conversation. If I were a lonely girl sitting at a table and in need of a good conversation, a guy buying me a drink or not wouldn't be a big deal. I don't know if R was just shy and using that as an excuse or if he really thought buying a drink for her would make or break his chances, but if it was the latter, then I feel really bad for a lot of guys in the dating scene. I know there are a lot of gold diggers (cue Kanye West . . .she take my money) out there but if I was a guy approaching a girl at a bar and she balked because I didn't buy her a drink, then I'd just walk away.
So yeah, money ain't no thang. Maybe when you're a little older and looking to buy a house and settle down and worry about mortgages, then yes, you wouldn't want to date a guy who lived in a studio with 10 other people and was 'creatively unemployed'. But for young people like us, in our early to mid 20's, stop thinking so much about money and just do what feels right. Money or no money, you'd be having a good time with the right person. And if not, then it's 3 minutes of your life wasted and a goodbye to the sad lonely money hungry girl in the corner.
I'm fairly young and mostly idealistic, so right now money isn't a deal breaker for me. That is, I don't really care if the guy I'm dating is loaded or poor. Yes, it's nice to be treated out to a fancy restaurant, but sometimes lack of money could make for more creative (and more memorable) dates.
I wonder if other females my age feel the same way.
What brought this on?
Well, last Saturday my friends and I were at a bar in Williamsburg (Enid's, for you curious folks), and I was sitting a table with my male friend R. At the table behind us, I noticed a pretty and lonely looking blonde. Now, I'm a matchmaker and the conversation at our table had stalled, so I nudged R and told him to go talk to the girl. She looked friendly, she was hot and there were no guys around her.
R turned around, looked her up and down, and said, ". . .nah".
I turned and looked again, thinking maybe I misjudged and there was a creature from the lagoon sitting behind us. But nope, still a hot and friendly looking blonde. So I had to ask, "Why not?".
R gave me a look and said, "I don't have money to buy her a drink".
Huh.
See, to me, buying a drink isn't a prerequisite to a good conversation. If I were a lonely girl sitting at a table and in need of a good conversation, a guy buying me a drink or not wouldn't be a big deal. I don't know if R was just shy and using that as an excuse or if he really thought buying a drink for her would make or break his chances, but if it was the latter, then I feel really bad for a lot of guys in the dating scene. I know there are a lot of gold diggers (cue Kanye West . . .she take my money) out there but if I was a guy approaching a girl at a bar and she balked because I didn't buy her a drink, then I'd just walk away.
So yeah, money ain't no thang. Maybe when you're a little older and looking to buy a house and settle down and worry about mortgages, then yes, you wouldn't want to date a guy who lived in a studio with 10 other people and was 'creatively unemployed'. But for young people like us, in our early to mid 20's, stop thinking so much about money and just do what feels right. Money or no money, you'd be having a good time with the right person. And if not, then it's 3 minutes of your life wasted and a goodbye to the sad lonely money hungry girl in the corner.
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